What is the Flip Flop Parenting Philosophy?
Parenting is a tough gig. In my opinion there is nothing harder and more rewarding in this life.
Flip Flop Parenting is about developing an awareness of who you are as a parent, and where to draw your strength from so that you are successful.
Why is Parenting so Hard?
If it is so rewarding, and we love our kids so much, why is it so hard?
When we welcome our precious ones into this world we feel a rush of emotion unlike anything else. My husband always says that he never knew he could love someone so much that he just met.
We take a few moments to just gaze into his eyes, observe who he looks like, count his fingers and toes, take in his smell, and wonder at the miracle of life.
While there is nothing that can take those moments away or cheapen them, it is not long before the realization hits that you are now responsible for this unbelievable creature. His survival rests in your hands.
You have already had the conversation with the nurse as to whether you are going to breast or bottle feed, and now she is here to make sure the baby is successful at whichever you chose.
You no doubt put thought and possibly worry into that decision beginning not long after you discovered there was a life growing in you.
If you chose to breastfeed like I did, you probably now have nurse grabbing your boob trying to help you shove it into your angel’s mouth, and it looks like you are going to choke him. It is awkward to say the least, and your just praying he latches well.
Now I recognize that not all births go according to plan, and like two of mine, some babies are rushed off to NICU instead of laid on your chest. Talk about worry!
My point is that within moments of the greatest event in your life the magnitude of parenting comes upon you.
The Promise Land of parenting is releasing a well adjusted, productive citizen into the world who loves the Lord with all his heart. There is a lot of wandering in the wilderness before you get there, but God will get you there if you will only trust Him.
Hard or Not, You are the One
“I knew you before I formed you in your mother’s womb. Before you were born I set you apart and appointed you as my prophet to the nations.” Jeremiah 1:5
Reread that verse but replace the words “as my prophet to the nations” with “as mother of (insert your childrens’ names).”
God knew you before placing you in your mother’s womb and He purposed for you to be the mother of your children, not mine or anybody else’s, but your children.
He knew you were the one for the job, and the one they would need.
It is so easy for us to see our faults and feel like we are not enough, or like we are somehow screwing up our kids no matter how much we love them.
At times we compare ourselves to another mom who appears to have it all together and we think our kids would be better off with a mom like her. I am here to tell you that is a lie from the enemy, and there is not another mom on the planet that would be better for your precious babies than you.
“But I keep screwing up, so what do i do?,” you ask.
What You Do
“And this same God who takes care of me will supply all your needs from His glorious riches, which have been given to us in Christ Jesus.” Phil 4:19
The riches of Christ Jesus are immeasurable. The price Christ paid so that we could restore our relationship with God, His grace and favor, and His love are beyond belief.
As much as you love your child, God loves them even more. In His all knowing love for them, He knew you were the mommy they needed.
God also knew, and designed it, so that you would need His help along the way.
Dear mom who doubts herself, turn to God and rest in His presence. Christ paid the price so you could have peace and direct communion with the Father. Accept His gift in all of its fullness.
So often we turn to books, blogs, friends, or any number of things that we think might be able to help us solve the newest issue that arises with our little ones. (The issues never stop coming. Just when you think you have one conquered, a new one comes up.)
Before going to the multitude of other sources, go to God.
You are the mommy your precious babies need, and God is the Father you need to direct you in the way to go.
God will at times use books, blogs or a friend to impart His wisdom, but with any advice or technique you come across, take it to God and ask Him if that is the best plan of action.
If you go at in your own strength, you will tire out and feel frustrated. That frustration will more than likely trickle onto your child.
If you go at it with the strength of Christ in the midst of your own weakness, although you may not understand it all, it will carry the power of Christ.
But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. 2 Corn 12:9
I don’t know about you, but I want the power of Christ to rest upon me in all things, but especially as I mother my children!
When you are exhausted, don’t know the answer, feel like you can’t adult today, or question yourself as a mother, rest in in the promise of the Lord in Phil 4:13 that you can do everything through Christ who will give you strength.
There is victory in Christ Jesus.
I know like me you want to enter the Promise Land of parenting. Trust God and He will get you there. Follow His leading and His instruction and you will taste the milk and honey of your efforts.
But What Is Flip Flop Parenting?
Flip Flop Parenting is parenting in the midst of the understanding that Christ gives you all you need to do the job so there is no need for worry, but rather rest.
Wouldn’t it be amazing to never worry again about your child, but rather find pure joy in who they are?!
When I think of Flip Flops I immediately think of the beach which to me displays God’s beauty and leaves me in awe. I find peace there.
Flip Flops represent relaxation and chillness to me. That is exactly the type of mother I want to be.
As I walk out this parenting journey I want to walk in flip flops, relaxed, placing my trust in God, and resting in His promises for both myself and my children.
Will you put on your flip flops and join me?