In my post last week I wrote about the day that my Jumping Bean got bit by a copperhead. I also mentioned in that post that besides just changing my little guy and helping him to see that God works all things for our good, that event had a dramatic impact on our entire family.
What I did not tell you in that post was that morning my husband and I had an argument. I couldn’t even tell you what it was about. I do know that we were just kind of doing our own thing in the house. We weren’t really speaking to each other unless out of necessity.
Necessity came screaming when our son got bit, but while me managed all the details we weren’t exactly warm to one another. We weren’t mean to each other in any way, and I don’t think most people would have ever known a thing about it, but we were definitely not feeling warm and fuzzy toward one another. We weren’t normal Sarah and C.J.
After we managed the hospital stay, slept what was left of that night, and took care of all of little man’s needs the next day, we sat down to talk out what the argument had been about once the kids were asleep.
In the midst of our discussion we talked about a lot of things. It was one of the LONG discussions where you solve all of your marriage issues at once. 😉 It wasn’t just marriage issues, but life issues as well.
I had expressed to my husband that when I took a peak at that snake rearing its head up toward the slab of our home, I felt the presence of evil. I told him in that moment to myself and in my spirit I commanded Satan in the name of Jesus to flee from our home. Satan has no right in our home because this is a home that serves only one Lord and that is Jesus Christ. I know that many will not understand my feeling of that snake representing Satan and will think it was just a snake. Whether you can understand or not, that moment in my life had a strong spiritual impact.
As my husband and I continued our discussion late into the night I told him that I felt like we were under attack from the enemy. Recently we had been arguing a lot and the kids had been misbehaving more that usual. We were all just out of sorts. I expressed a need and desire for us TOGETHER to dive into the word and spend time in prayer. That night we just talked about it. It wasn’t the first time it had been discussed, things weren’t perfect between us, but we were exhausted so we went to sleep.
The next day my husband gave me a call from work and we decided to let go of everything and start new. When he got home from work he asked me if I wanted to read our Bibles together. I was elated! We decided we were simply going to pick a book of the Bible and read it without any Bible study guide of book. That was a changing point for our family, a MAJOR one!
As my husband and I read the Bible TOGETHER and discussed what it meant to us we found answers we needed. We found a new and deeper love for one another. Eleven years in it is sweeter than ever. We found a grounding that if we skip even a little bit we feel out of sorts. We felt able to discern the will of God much clearer. Our parenting improved and the boys began to thrive like never before.
I think the most dramatic change I have seen since the snake bite has taken place in my husband. I have always loved him and thought the world of him, but it has deepened both. His love for God is what made me fall in love with him in the first place, but over the past year I have watched my husband grow like never before. He has taken hold of the word of God and is letting it sink into the marrow of his bones. He has begun to lead our family in a way that is so encouraging to watch. He serves us all in a much deeper way. Conflict between us has dwindled down to very little. It has been amazing the confirmation we have received from one another as we study the Bible or listen for God separately.
As I laid in bed with my head on my husband’s chest last night I told him that I felt a deep sense that God has big things in store for us if we will continue to seek Him, sit quietly and patiently waiting on His timing, and trust His plans for us no matter what. I told him I know that it will be more than we can even imagine.
A year out from that traumatic event I can say that our family will never be the same. It will affect more that just our children but also our children’s children.
I want to encourage you to look for the good in every situation in your life, even the bad ones. God promises to use it for your good. I also encourage you to fall on your face no matter what season you are in and seek God. He is there. Don’t wait until the trauma comes. Dive into His word and discover His love for you, His precious child. Take hold of that love and let it grow you. Trust in His plan for you and be willing to walk it out in faith. Your life will never be sweeter.
I know most of us already know that we should do those things. We know they are the right Sunday School answers, but they are so much more than that. There is so much noise in this life and thousands of things that fight for our time and energy. There are also many lies from the enemy that we have to overcome, but if you are brave enough to give it a go, you will never be the same. I would love to hear from you and how God changes you and your family.